Thursday, December 17, 2009
Saying Goodbye
Monday, August 24, 2009
First Day of School
Emma started third grade and is going to the public school a stones throw from our house. Her teacher is a lady I worked with during my last year of teaching, so it is nice to have someone you know professionally teaching your children. When she left Challenger after first grade they were just starting multiplication and she is excited that she will be continuing with multiplication in the third grade. Fortunately, she has her mother's mathematical skills and not her fathers! She has a couple kids in her class from last year, but is excited for the opportunity to make new friends.
Liam is starting Kindergarten at a private school called Challenger. My brother Danny is glad, he says women take care of the house and kids (except his brother who has to break all of the traditional rules) so they only need a public education; however men who work should go to private school to get a decent education. I think he's joking, but its hard to tell sometimes (not to mention he's too afraid of Shelly to own up to this crazy theory).
I am really looking forward to having a little bit of time to get some projects done around the house that I have procrastinated because of our busy summer. With only two kids at home, although Rachel is the busiest of the bunch, I think I should be able to get a lot done; that is after I finish my 'Honey Do' list!
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Tournament Results
Friday, June 26, 2009
Emma's First Tournament
Her other event is sparring. I love watching Emma spar, although sometimes I don’t think she realizes that sparring is preparing her for actual fighting. She began sparring in January of this year and has really done very well…when she remembers to keep her hands up. Its always amazed me that Emma, being a very emotional girl, has not cried once during sparring, and we have seen lots of kids crying while sparring. The first time she sparred, she got kicked in the stomach and fell back several feet, exhaling loudly as the air was knocked out of her lungs. She jumped up and kept fighting without skipping a beat. Another time she was fighting a girl who punched her in the face. She came over to me showing me her mouthpiece and said, “There’s blood in my mouthpiece. That’s awesome!” Emma has only hurt another person once when she kicked a boy and made him cry. It really bothered Emma that she had hurt another person and she told the boy repeatedly that he had done a good job and was a good fighter. She didn’t use a lot of power after that for quite a while because I think she was afraid of hurting someone again. With all that said, I am really worried about her fighting in tournament because she will be fighting someone she doesn’t know, someone who doesn’t know her. I am worried because I feel like the students in her class back off a bit because she is such a sweet girl, or they know her limits and don’t push her hard enough. Her instructors are always telling me what a great fighter she is and how quick she is, but I am afraid she is going to go up against someone who is out for blood. I know it’s silly, I know how much she loves to spar, and I don’t want her to get hit so hard she is either embarrassed or chooses not to do Taekwondo anymore.
I love Emma. She is an amazing child with fantastic talents. She has kept straight A’s all year, she has chosen to be baptized in September (on the 4th), and she has excelled at Taekwondo and sparring. I want to see her happy just like I want to see all my children happy. I just hope I can survive this weekend because I’m a nervous wreck!
Friday, May 29, 2009
Single Parent
After having Rebekah, Shelly told me she had an opportunity to attend some training at the Humana home office in Kentucky and participate in some conferences around the country. Having taken a couple of months off for maternity leave I told her she should "jump in feet first" and do as much as she can to enjoy her fairly new job. She took my words to heart and has hardly been home the last couple of months. Currently she is in Boston attending a conference, she will be home Sunday for a few hours before leaving again for San Diego.
Last month she was at a week long seminar in Kentucky when the kids all got the flu. I was holding newborn Rebekah in one arm standing over some towels so she could throw up on them and holding a crying Rachel in the other. Liam wanted to sleep in Emma's new bunk bed (top bunk of course) and ended up throwing all over her and her bed. He changed his clothes and went out to the living room to watch TV without waking me up, what a great guy, although Emma got sick from sleeping in his puke all night. It was a very draining week for me, and Shelly who was worried about us, jumped on a flight and came home early.
With all that said let me go back to my original statement, "Single parents I do not know how you do it!" I have a new respect for you all, especially my mom. She always said that there is a special place in heaven for the mothers of boys! Boy is she right. I don't know how she did it (and I only have 1 boy) all the while working and going to school to become a nurse. I cannot remember my mother getting angry at us, although she says whenever she tried to break up a fight or argument we would unite against her, so there was not a lot of discipline. She also still managed to take us to church every Sunday without killing us during services. The three of us turned out to be pretty great guys without a lot of animosity towards our parents for their parental mistakes.
When Shelly is home there is a little (very little) piece of the evening after she comes home where I can catch my breath and then the two of us take care of the family and house together. I am not the greatest homemaker, although I guess I do have that label, but I try and allow Shelly the time she needs after a hard days work to unwind without the children driving her crazy. With her gone and without that small amount of time to catch my breath and without her assistance in the evening, I find I get frustrated easy, the house doesn't get clean, I feel upset that I do not have any time for myself, and then I feel like a lousy parent. Being a school teacher and having parent-teacher conferences I have seen my share of bad parents. I've had strippers and prostitute parents, and been told I cannot send home troublemakers because they will be around violence and gang banger family members. I know I am not a bad parent, in fact I have been told many times how great I am with kids. I know my kids love me, but there is always the worry that will this split second decision be the one that haunts my kid forever.
Single parents: I respect you!
My wife: please don't ever leave me (at least for more than a week at a time)!
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
No White Guilt Here
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Blessing Day
On Sunday, Billy blessed Baby Rebekah. He did so well! For those of you that don't know, he's terrified to speak in public, even something as ceremonial and important as a baby blessing. It was very special, he blessed her to follow in the path of her Savior, to be a light that all could hearken to on this Earth and also to be strong-willed like her mom. We had all the grandparents there, my parents, Bob and Karen and Bill and Mary. Of course Uncle Dano was in the circle along with Bill and Bob and our old bishop, Ralph Thomas. Rebekah wore the blessing dress my good friend Angela made for Rachel, she looked beautiful.
Friday, February 20, 2009
Hooray! Rebekah's in the Clear!
I'll tell you what, these hormones are enough to make a husband run scared! Last night I started crying just because I was sure I was dehydrating my baby and making her jaundice worse. Billy just kind of looked at me like, "are you on drugs?" and put his arms around me and let me cry. I think I need a little more sleep. Being a nurse is NOT good when you have a newborn; especially when you're so militant about no bottles and only breastmilk.
I can say, however, that I'm mighty proud of myself. I made a pact this pregnancy that I wouldn't give up, that I needed to have one last breastfeeding experience with my last baby. Despite intensive care in the hospital (where they demand bottle feeding, unless you're a nurse who demands gavage feeding because you're a breastfeeding nazi), readmission into the hospital for severe jaundice and persistent high bilirubin levels, it looks like we've made it. Now, I have to begin the long stretch of commitment for 6 months of mostly breastmilk and very little formula.
This will be hard considering I go back to work at the end of March. I have rented a hospital grade pump so that I can make sure that my girl gets the best. It will be interesting to see if Rebekah ends up with chronic ear infections like Liam and Rachel who had little to no breastmilk. It will be my own personal study.
Anyway, enough about boobs and milk....
I found out today that one of my dearest friends is moving to Idaho. I am sad for me, but happy for her. She has been a rock for me in the church, my second visiting teaching partner and an extraordinary example in the gospel to me. Her daughter is best friends with Emma and her son is a good friend to Liam. Why is it that friends have to move away? It seems like in Las Vegas that all my friends move away....I guess that's because we live in Sin City and it's not exactly the best place if you're LDS with no family support.
By the way, as you can see, this blog is supposed to be Billy's blog, but I keep hijacking it....boy isn't that a shocker!
Thursday, February 19, 2009
....And Again!
We were able to turn off the outpatient phototherapy yesterday and will hopefully find out this afternoon that we're done with those darn lights all together. If not, we continue to bake her with the tanning blanket to make her less yellow and more white.
Things seem to be beginning to fall back into place. I'm getting more than 2 hrs of sleep at night and the kids are getting back to their routine. I don't know how some people do it....4 kids is a lot and I know lots of people that have even more than that. I'm looking forward to the next 4 weeks to continue to NOT work and be with my family. Secretly, I must say, I love staying home, but I also miss my work. They have been so good to me and haven't bothered me once.....
We are looking forward to this weekend and being with the family. Finally, my incision doesn't hurt much and last night I actually slept in my bed. I can't tell you how perfect and comfortable that was. I think the last time I slept in my bed was almost two months ago. Towards the end of my pregnancy, laying down flat was not an option, so I slept in my reclining chair in my room. When we got home from the hospital, my incision was too sore and it was hard to pull myself up to a sitting position. All that's left now is a night sleeping on my belly....when that happens, I may not wake up when the baby cries, belly sleeping is my paradise!
Anyway, again, thanks to all who have had prayers and good wishes to us. I will post this afternoon so that everyone knows if we're done with the tanning bed or not.
One more thing, Papa Bob, we miss you too and can't wait to see you for the baby blessing. Looks like we're shooting for 03/29/09, that's Fast Sunday since the following Sunday is General Conference and then the following Sunday is Easter. Rebekah is looking forward to meeting her Papa (and all the rest of her family that might want to come) and getting lots of smooches. In regards to your eldest son, I'm not sure there was much damage to undo, he is the most amazing man on this planet and I thank my Heavenly Father every day for crossing my path with his. He is my soul mate and I can't imagine a day of my life without him. So thanks for "making" him and raising him because I'm quite certain my life would be entirely different and really miserable without him.
Posted by Shelly Martin
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Home Again!
Friday night we overdid it, my eyes are usually bigger than my stomach and I think I'm invincible. 4 kids and a fresh c-section incision don't make for easy living! Regardless, we're doing well, short of sleep and still sore from surgery, we are on our road to recovery.
Rebekah has a bili-blanket at home to help chase the jaundice away. Her levels are coming down and I think we've turned the corner (very quickly compared to Rachel). My incision is feeling better and I don't think I've even had to take any pain medication today.
We're diligently working on breastfeeding, doing much better this pregnancy than Rachel as well. I'm looking forward however in a few months to getting a full nights sleep, I think last night I got 4 hours total (divided between midnight and 9 am) and the night before about the same. The things we do for our children.....
Anyway, despite all of that, we are grateful for a big family that loves each other, grateful that I have hours at night to give up to bond with my baby, a job that pays me for maternity leave and most of all, a husband who works very hard to make it all turn out!
Babies are a miracle and Rebekah, just like the previous 3 have strengthened my testimony. To know that Billy and I are loved enough to be entrusted with another sweet spirit is awesome.
We will take some pictures tonight and post them of the newest addition. Emma, Liam and Rachel are eager to get their hands on her. Liam and Rachel are both sick, so they haven't been able to spend much time with her. We'll post more pictures later with the kids when they're healthier and not risking making Rebekah sick.
Much love to all of you who sent good wishes and prayers our way....time to get back to the baby, it's feedin' time!
Saturday, February 7, 2009
3 Days Left.....and Counting
Friday was my last day at work and I can hardly believe that I won't be working for another 42 days.....I've never taken that much time off in my entire life.
To prepare for Rebekah's arrival, the whole family is nesting (because I'm making them). We are dusting, vacuuming, cleaning bathrooms and getting things ready so that I can bring our new arrival to a clean home! Billy asked me this morning if I had taken crystal meth, I guess the adrenaline is flowing and the energy is abundant, despite limited sleep. A clear sign that the pregnancy is coming to a close. Despite the energy and nesting instinct, I'm trying to take it easy today, my doctor is out of town on Saturday and I wouldn't be a happy girl if some stranger did my c-section.
It's a dreary, wet day in Las Vegas, I hope that it goes by quickly so that I am just one day closer. I am looking forward to bonding with my new little girl, having my body back and beginning the road to recovery from fat, pregnant girl to skinny woman. I have no excuses to stall this time since there will be no further pregnancies in our future (tubes are being tied!!!).
To anyone reading this, love and prayers are appreciated. We are hoping that there are no complications and that Baby Rebekah doesn't follow her older sister's example (Rachel) and end up in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit for a short time while in the hospital.
Posted by Shelly
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Kid's Taekwondo Testing
Emma will likely continue to progress at TMT, Liam on the other hand may be moving on to another sport as his concentration and dedication are not quite the level at the level of his big sister.
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Grandma Ashton's Memorial Service
We looked at pictures of Grandma and couldn’t believe the resemblance to Shelly. Grandma lived a long life, she died when she was in her early 90’s. She was born in the United States, but as German as they come. Her maiden name was Miller (changed from Mueller when her parents immigrated to the United States). She met my Grandfather in Zion, IL and they dated for over 10 years. When they finally tied the knot, it was in secret because of religious factions within Zion. They were married for over 60 years and only separated by death. Grandpa was a paper salesman and traveled often for his job. He worked until he was in his mid-seventies when they finally made him retire because he was practically blind.
Shelly’s Grandparents were the definition of Great Americans. They worked hard, honored their family and loved their country. They often went without so that when they left this life, their surviving family would have something to remember them by. Their dedication to each other and our country speaks volumes in a world today where many have lost these most treasured and important values.